What Happens When Sacrifice Turns into a Guilt Trip?

 Why are we constantly being asked in private - public spaces to feel sorry for military, police, mothers, fathers, folk who agreed to make the sacrifice, to not guilt and shame the rest of us?

What if that amounts to tyranny, and we, the people held hostage by our own madness, like d'prez?
What if guilt/shame amounts to emotional/verbal abuse stealing free will of love within ear/eyeshot?
What if this is another way how schools, families, democracies across mother earth fail d'adopted and not?
On nonviolence, truth, 9 other vows, Gandhi reminds: home is first university, parents the teachers.
Teacher Induction Program 101: in 1-3 sentences more/less, draw/write reflections in your T.I.P. journal
footnotes from m'self to our'selves, Kaale/Mustalainen/Black/FinnishRomanyGypsyme part of "my""werk" is "play to stay alive". please don't tell me to refine refine refine thanks for that superior, holocaustic train of thought underscores the extent of exclusion slavery to this day; and that my exercise is to spit it out this shit finally in the first place. adopt a draft, rough, incomplete, kind of like me, god only knows if this is close to conveyance and please pardon sarcasm, hate, intolerance, violence, danger steer clear, that's my amygdala fearfully reacting to ongoing racism/loss/abuse/neglect. what? did u think that's who i truly am? there's that erase-ism, racism again. me, too; I kin relate. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. And thank you. I love you all, Spirit, and Ho'oponopono. 
preexhibition) on the alchemy of learning.....Every human being adopts relevant knowledge, aspirations, skills, attitudes, behaviors, animals, babies, cultures, etc. for life needed, wanted, desired to overcome each/every loss, as life and that being keep changing here + there + beyond, while dancing with 6 predictable cards: guilt and shame, mastery and control, rejection, identity, intimacy, grief.

EXHIBIT A) little - big superior complexes around mother earth tripping-out, fearful, grief-struck-by-loss amygdala mode, like those scapegoating Donald Trump mirroring the madness they oppose, cycling fight-flight-freeze-fuck, accidentally repeating civil war-holocaust. mission of the Adoption Spirit Apothecary

EXHIBIT B) Wanna play with a stacked for life deck of cards? recall a) which cards actually are yours, b) flip-sides, c) the alchemy of lifelong learning here-there-beyond, d) data driven dialogue, you know, talking with yourself/others about how numbers/stats add up to success/golden eggs.

EXHIBIT C)  How do you license a fortune teller? In Mass., we leave checking scrying qualifications to municipalities What if we, the people "adopted" by "Massachusetts" discriminate all the times per day when laughter is not medicine but a symptom of pride+prejudice, you know, intolerance, hate and violence bred by loss which also delayed development?

EXHIBIT D) choicelessness of women over 35/female-adolescents/pre&post-pubescent-girls who get fucked over on a variety of levels, including impregnation, u know no body is really an adult at age 18, that's just to legalize teens for sex rings and killing fields.

EXHIBIT E) late July/early August 2018 after landing in ER-then-hospital-3-days-and-another-return-days-later-for-a-night (from long term and acute systemic abuse, neglect, racism making me vomit for days) glory b alelujah i sensed when i recovered strength, Spirit, ancestors, and On-I-Set Wigwam spiritualist summer camp would offer saving grace to face my fate.

EXHIBIT F) "Shameless" scene of young parents filling out emergency form and getting stuck on emergency contact for their baby reminds me of much, like situations faced by m'adoptive - birth families.

EXHIBIT G) what most delays/obstructs learning/leading/living/loving? loss.

EXHIBIT H) I don't want to fight for anything anymore because that sad-gone-mad energy sabotages adoption spirit 24/7 and is how I'z abandoned as BIPOC fetus/newborn and systemically ever since adopted. 2020 census: 'snot safe for the likes of me to "go to work" - "go to school", much less hang out with family - friends, as when i began orphaned 1970, so playing with myself my cards from where I hide, earning a free ph.d. in tolerance/adoption/free*will/life*long*learning/justice
slave to love
"We Are the Romani People" by Ambassador Ian Hancock
"Gypsies: The Hidden Americans" by Anne Sutherland
adoption spirit ?
a) "...we have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; we have received the spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, thanks god for helping us all..." Romans 8:15;
b) "...as far as east is from west is how far transgression is removed from us..." Psalm 103:12;
c) how to say a) + b) in your tongue?

EXHIBIT I) maybe u understand my reluctance to comply with common core risky business shark tank set of mind, "...'make it pretty so people will want to adopt it.'..."not here to cater to your whims + desires, but I kin help u play y/our cards.cllaborate cmmission cnsult with the likes of me/us if u want, building capacity to adopt success for one/all while transmuting violence into love. On boundaries + wounded healer me, of course, I reserve right to refuse service, like when m'hands are full saving myself and/or my playmate. collaborate, commission, consult

EXHIBIT J)VA town sued for discrimination against tarot practitioners also tied in with LGBTQ.

EXHIBIT K) Teach Your Children feeling how parents fall short and expect children to sacrifice is a catch 22, all the students under 35 being schooled that way, teacher says, "I worked so hard on this lesson plan; now learn it. Show and tell me how much you love me and what a good teacher i am." If we were not wasting so much energy on politics - rocket science - war in the name of ??? maybe we could help our parents figure out how to raise their children.