What if individual, family, and world peace, even homeland security,
was simple as a fine-not-gross change of approach?
What if the young person you assume to be adult is just adolescent, 14 - 25 years old?
What if the one you assume criminal / terrorist is just stunted senseless adoptee**?
My expression has been challenging folks near and far since before I was born,
I-eye-ay mirror fashion, returned the challenge, so victim and perpetrator I am.
Adopted, still I physically and verbally attacked my family and friends even strangers,
even today in moments of high stress yet toned down as wiseness insets humans.
Mother of all examples:
even though blessed to be born
even though blessed to be born
AND thankful to be adopted,
I acted like a terrorist
beating my Mom.
I was surly sixteen year old the one time I smacked my mom,
she was so tired, trying to help, used age old method,
shame flew from her mouth yet it had reverse effect,
triggering sad violent rage not peaceful conformity or joy.
I smacked the glasses off her face...
Obviously, I should have known better and so should she,
but then "should" is a guilt-inducing word,
setting humans back to beginning like crying babies
instead of helping to develop with dignity.
With 21st century advantages, we see, words do break bones and hearts and minds.
Human beings are too sensitive for violent verbal approaches.
Guilting, shaming, blaming family, friend, enemy, nation, media
delays humanity to death rather than aiding best development.
Through toddler, play, school adolescence and young adulthood
I hurt others and myself so much so that now in middle age 44,
I am cast out, judged un:acceptable/forgivable/grateful/worthy by Strangers / Loves.
Error horrified, I cast out myself more to figure how to apologize for my acts of terror***.
I hope soon myself and others might understand more the lay of adopted land.
ADMIT
ACCEPT
ANGLO**
ABIDE
Let the peace of God rule our hearts. Colossians 3:15
Rromans 8:15
...for ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear,
but ye have received the Spirit of adoption whereby we cry....
CARRY OM
FYI just in case PS
***my reign of terror = all the times my scared-senseless amigula fires off violently before I think,
(thank you, Brother Mark T for reminder of that scientific concept)
**ANGLO (means "embrace" in Rromani Chi'b/Gypsy tongue)
DADA is an art style of sorts, do your own R and D....
*adoptee (includes abused, divorced, immigrant, neglected, refugee, spiritualist) often experience stunted growth resulting from loss and trauma which usually can be recovered, allow two - ten years
ADOPTION ISSUES
grief, loss, guilt and shame, rejection, mastery and control, intimacy, identity
NOVEMBER IS ADOPTION AWARENESS MONTH
and this is a test of the emergency broadcasting system.
